Ep 38 | Quantum Sensitivity: From Mental Loops to Conscious Co-Creation
Welcome to Rise and Realign. Conversations for the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely, and sense the world in ways that are hard to explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor your sensitivity as a strength, not something to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and soul led stories, we remember how to move through life in a way that feels true to who we really are. This is your space to rise. To realign. And to come home again and again to your own wise, sensitive, authentic self.
So last week, episode 37, was Quantum Sensitivity: Listening to Your Body's Intelligent Design Amid Life's Signals. I spoke about my view of quantum sensitivity as the multidimensional intelligence that bridges the high sensitivity trait with the living sea of consciousness, energy, light, frequency, and waves of information. So for me, a lot has happened since last week. I was having physical sensations in my body from the really unhealthy air quality out here, impacted by fires, and I was attuned to my body's experiences and was prepared to leave the next day. And then everything shifted. The air quality improved dramatically. It went to good. There's been progress with containing the fires. And then, of course, the new moon. There's just so much that shifts in a short amount of time.
And I don't know what that's like for you, but I know that when I used to be more physically focused in the sense of, I have to do this, I have to do that, I've got to go to work at this time, I've got to be ready for this. So much mental planning and preparations, and then, of course, all of the physical activities that accompany it. I didn't know or pay attention to my body's communications quite like I do now. I would surmise that had I known what I know now, back when I was in my 20s, my life would have unfolded differently, because I would have made that relationship with my body number one. And it wasn't in my 20s. I actually, there were times when I really hated my body. I did not like how it didn't function the way I had hoped with conceiving children easily, and welcoming them into the world.
So, I speak from a very different place today. And actually, when I am supporting women, whether that's one on one or in groups, I've really been teaching this take a break and breathe love for as long as I can remember, because so much of the time, people are living from their mental processes. The list of things to do, what they might want to eat, what's next. It's very future oriented. And again, I lived that way as well, up until I was 38.
But when I'm working with women one on one, and just creating that space of coherence and calmness for them to get centered in their own heart, and connected to their own inner guidance and wisdom, I see the struggle. I remember the struggle. It's not completely left in my awareness. Especially as sensitive women, that stress response from the sympathetic nervous system can just be so chronic that we start missing all of the other signals that are important. And the mind just has these mental programs that just keep you on a kind of hamster wheel. You're not really doing too much different, or even if it seems like it's different, there may be so much repetitiveness.
And I really want to speak again to the fact that I've been in the mental health field since I was 19 years old. And I've really been sparked by the whole fascination with, how does the mind work? How do we interact with each other? What are we really a part of? This multidimensional understanding of myself.
And what I really love about working with highly sensitive women is because there's that depth of processing, there's this depth of caring. There is this powerful, powerful loving force within each and every one of them. And when we talk about being in survival mode, or again, chronic stress, we are missing out on our ability to just be present, to get silent, to be still, and to listen to our own inner guidance. So much of many people's lives are run by that mental drive, or the inability to be still.
I'm not somebody who would say, I don't teach meditation per se, because meditation can mean different things to different people, and what one person thinks can again skew what they experience. But for me, it's about supporting and guiding you back to your own alignment, with your own true essence. Who you really are, which is underneath those mental processes or that physical drive. It's when our view is that this is all there is, this physical reality. Whatever that may be, that you're interacting with, whether it's relationships with people, your finances, your physical health, your home environment, all these different things. But when we forget that we're human beings, or, as I like to say, we're beings of love and light who are having a human experience, but it's important to know that our human experience is not a disconnect from the beingness that we truly are. It's more about understanding and walking together.
So when I'm supporting women, and they're sharing the mental process, I've been thinking about this, this comes up, that comes up, and what I like to guide women to understand is, our focus is really key to understanding. Because as someone with a depth of processing, where you're just naturally reflecting on your situation, your experiences, where you're naturally taking in more input from your environment, there's a lot. And that processing can just keep looping. There's just always more. There's always more, there's always more.
And this is what I want you to understand. Our systems get waterlogged. We just get bogged down, because there's been so much stimuli coming in, and not enough time to take a break and breathe love, to connect with your breath and your body, connecting with that stillness that's within you, because that's where your inner wisdom, your inner guidance is. We can't keep going and going and going from the mental pressure and looping and the physical activities without understanding the relationship. The relationship that we have with our mind and understanding how it operates. Our relationship with our body and understanding its needs and what it's communicating. And our relationship with our spirit, our soul. We are so much more than we realize.
And when we come into this world, there is that period of, if you want to call it amnesia, where we are unaware of our connection to that source, whether you call it God, universal intelligence, the one mind. There's so many ways that you can view that. And again, there's no one right way. It's being open to being aware that there is a higher power, a higher essence, so to speak, that we're all a part of. We're all connected to it. We don't all remember it. We don't all know it.
And I'm deeply grateful that I remembered, that I awoke 18 years ago, to these qualities of who I really am and what I'm really here for. And what I really have come to value is understanding that we all go through different phases and stages of development, if you want to call it that. Different ways of understanding who we are and how life flows the way it does.
But again, my heart goes out to those who are the sensitive souls, because the power of love within you, and the power to sense, that sensory intelligence, that high resolution navigational system that you have inside of you, you have the power to remember. You have the power to strengthen your focus, retrain those cognitive programs and patterns. And again, the more you take a break and breathe love, the more you connect with your breath and your body, and listen within yourself, the easier it becomes to be that calm, centered, coherent individual, where so much more is possible.
Now, I honor each woman wherever she is on her journey, and I'm really, really honored, because I do support women who are in all different places on their journey. And I want to say, there's no judgment. There's no hierarchy. Because what I understand is, we've all, as souls, said yes to coming to this earthly plane, this earth school. And it's not easy. We're navigating a lot. But I've said before that my own intuition says that those of us who are more highly sensitive, perhaps we've been through this before, and so we're coming through with clearer, that high resolution navigational system to actually help us.
And I love how what's going on in the cosmos and the shifting of the planet's consciousness, it's so important, for me anyway, to be connected to that understanding that we're not alone on this journey. So even if you are a highly sensitive woman, and you are in the thick of the thick, you are feeling your worst, you are feeling like you just don't know how things are going to turn, I really invite you to, again, tune in to you, to your breath, to get still, and to connect with your soul, with source.
Because to become the co-creator that a lot of us desire, you hear a lot of people talking about, I want to manifest this, I want to manifest that, like it's a machine. Just focus on that and it's going to happen. You have to understand that your ability to focus is one of the most important things to be aware of, because a lot of people think multitasking is a talent they have. That's not supportive to you being the co-creator that you want to be. It's important that you're being true to yourself, to your path.
And so oftentimes we have these focus of, I want this relationship, or I want this new career, or I want my body to be vibrant and healthy and youthful. But yet we haven't yet been willing to look at those other programs that are running underneath the surface. And this is why I'm really, really grateful for the journey that I've been on, navigating through understanding the mental health field, and the different methodologies and theories, and just understanding how we even get the programs that we get. And I'm really grateful that I was able to work in a longevity clinic and learn so much about genetics and epigenetics and really what's possible beyond what most of us even have ever considered.
It's really incredible when you are able to break out of those old walls of thinking and believing and viewing. Our perspective is huge. But often we don't even know what our perspective is, if we're wanting to be that conscious co-creator in life. And so this is why, again, I like to speak about quantum sensitivity, because I do believe it's a way to understand your own soul's journey, and to honor your own path and your own pace, and your own purpose. Because what I'm here for, whether we look at it from a human design perspective, as the incarnation cross of the Sleeping Phoenix, or whether we just speak to what my own heart's desires are, those are uniquely mine.
And although we are connected to this one source, we're all individual expressions of this one source. And so there's not one right way to be. This is about honoring you on your path of realignment, as you rise, reclaim, and remember all that is true and best for you.
There are so many constructs that a lot of us are born into, and find it hard to break out of, whether it's what we can say or do or choose when it comes to family of origin. What our limits are as far as our financial possibilities. And oftentimes we may look at what we don't have that we want, and that can take us down a really steep hill. But what I want to say is that none of this is wrong, and none of it is bad, as highly sensitive individuals, especially. It's all opportunities for us to experience the contrast of what we don't want, what we don't like. We live and we learn. And that's how we grow.
And it's so important not to judge ourselves. Countless times I'll hear women say, well, I did this, and there's the judgment that comes. And I'm right there with you. I've been there, I've done that. But it doesn't mean there's something wrong. It doesn't. It is information that we get to process. And I'm always inviting women to be gentle with themselves, to be kinder to themselves. Because we are often our worst critics, especially those of us who are highly sensitive. We just have this innate survival strategy that's always looking out for, well, what's a better way? I feel like we're just on the self-improvement path. And again, it's not to be some elitist type of person, it's that we're truly processing so much of life's experiences and wanting to make sense of it. Well, how does this serve me? Or what can I gather from this? Or how do I discern the next step from this?
The depth of processing is really this depth of caring. You care so deeply about your own life and those that are in your intimate circle. And even the broader. I don't mean to discount. There are many on this planet who are very focused on the whole planet. And from a human design perspective, I understand that there are individuals that that's their design. They're here for more of the whole world, or the larger community, if you want to call it that. Where there's others where we're more focused on our own individual path.
I'm somebody who I have integration in my human design. So that's the path of a self-empowered individual. I also have a lot of individual strengths in my design. So that's the path of empowering others. And I also have tribal strengths in my design, which is about supporting those in my community. So, I know that these nuances of who I am help me understand, what is my part? What is my path? And to discover the gems and the jewels in all of it.
And that's what I really love with The Re-Align Circle for sensitive and strong women in their 20s. I absolutely adore supporting these women who haven't yet realized their own brilliance within themselves. And also, it's just such an honor to hold that space for them to discover their greatness, their gifts. Because again, the way the mind processes some of the experiences, and those survival strategies that we've lived through, it can skew our own view of ourselves.
And I'm really here to help liberate. This path of realignment is to let go of all of those preconceived ideas, those old beliefs, those old patterns that do not serve any of us. None of us. And there are plenty of us on this journey, having experiences where we have loved ones who are having big struggles on their path, and their struggles influence our journey.
And so again, relationships I know are such a huge part of navigating life as a highly sensitive woman, especially if you are also a mom. Because every woman who has a child is having their heart walk around outside of them in a sense. Literally, we have cells in our children. In their hearts, in their brains. We have their cells in us and they have our cells in them as moms. So as a highly sensitive mom, oh my gosh, it's amplified. So, I'm always grateful when I'm also supporting highly sensitive women who are moms. Even if your children are not all highly sensitive, like mine were, you're still the one who's navigating this journey in a very high resolution navigational system.
And there's a lot of pressures that come from society. And so, again, I really am here to just continue to support you on your path in all of its complexities and to remind you that there's nothing wrong with you. Your journey is unique to you, and if this is resonating for you today, and it's the first time you've ever heard any of this, then that's divine timing for you. It's all orchestrated and divinely timed.
So, why don't we take this moment now to take a break and breathe love. I invite you to feel whatever surface is beneath your body that is supporting you. Really feel into that, whether it's your feet on the earth, on the ground, or you're sitting in a chair, or laying wherever you are, just feel that support beneath you. Be reminded that you are held. And I invite you to place one hand on your heart. And I invite you to place the other hand anywhere on your body that seems to be calling for some extra loving attention.
Just notice your breath first. Notice what it's already doing without your guidance. And then I invite you to deepen your inhale. Just inhaling as deeply as you can. Taking another inhale through the nose and just allowing your spine to lengthen, your chest to open. And then exhale long and slow out your mouth. I really want you to honor your body, your pace. This is about where you are right now. Just continue to do that deep inhale through your nose. Second inhale. You are receiving, and then on the exhale, long and slow out your mouth, you are releasing. You're breathing in more love and light. And you're exhaling and releasing any stress, any tension, anything that's not yours to carry.
I just want to remind you while you're there, it is possible for you to rest, to get still, even if it's just for a few breaths, just tuning in and connecting to your heart, to your own inner guidance. It helps to move you out of all of the mental activities and helps you deepen your relationship and connection with your body.
So, take a break and breathe love is always available for you. Whether you feel your body giving you a signal, and you want to deepen that relationship, to pause, to listen to your body, to remind yourself that you are safe. We need to move out of that survival mode into that safe mode. So important every day, multiple times a day, for sensitive women.
And I know it's not easy, and that is why again, my offerings are always available for you to explore, if you feel like this resonates for you and you'd like to work with me directly, because I know it's not easy. The shifts that we make, they're gradual at times, and it's helpful to have somebody else supporting you, who's been living it, who walks it and understands it.
So, if something is coming up for you and your body right now, as you are doing those breathing practices, I encourage you to just continue and stay a little longer. And again, just affirming, I hear you, if your body is talking to you, or if the mental activity is still going, I hear you. Thank you. I am safe now. Just to help calm and ease what's going on for you right now.
So before we close, I invite you to, again, return to your breath, to your body, to what feels true for you right now, and in each and every day, whenever and wherever you can. There's nothing you need to fix. It's just noticing what's there. Giving your body that attention when it's calling for it. Your body is your best friend. It is your sacred temple. Your sacred vessel. So listening, focusing, caring about your body.
Just remember where the heart leads, the body remembers, and the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here together to rise, reclaim, remember. As always, I'm so grateful you're here. You are so, so important. Your presence and your voice matters. And so if you'd like to walk the sensitive and strong path with me, you can explore everything at realignwithmelissa.com. You can also visit ways to work with me, which gives you one to one options as well. So take good care of you. Much love and light.
